It's Thanksgiving Month!

The time to perhaps focus a bit more on just being thankful. If you are at all like me, there are times when my perspective on life, people, finances, circumstances, the weather and even my husband, can be discolored because of my attitude.


I can be robbed too quickly of a joyful spirit and a merry heart…with just a simple unthankful thought!


I have learned that the ability to continually think thankful thoughts is totally my choice and is born out of a grateful heart. I must choose to be grateful for what I have been given, grateful for the people God has put into my life…for a purpose, grateful for God's divine purpose and plan in where He has placed me, grateful for the house He provided and every thing in it! I must be grateful for the husband He led me to and the life we have together in serving the Lord. I must choose to be grateful for my children…even when they may disappoint me, remembering that they too, teach me things that help me grow in the Lord!


Are you a woman who often complains about your lot in life? You may be living with an ungodly or a less than loving man, but your thankful spirit can be used by God to bring that man to repentance and faith.

I Peter 2:18-19 "Servants, (it could say wives for we are servants to our husbands…) be subject to your masters with all fear; not only to the good and gentle, but ALSO to the froward. For this is thankworthy, if a man for conscience toward God endure grief, suffering wrongfully."

The very next verse says…. "…but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable to God."



Wow! That's huge! So I really can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me!  And in the end, I will be bringing glory to God! After all…that is why we are here isn't it?

I Corinthians 10:31 "Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do ALL to the glory of God."



This Biblical principle can be applied to every life situation. We women play the martyr complex in "our life sufferings" rather than focusing on bringing glory to God through the trial that He obviously has allowed.

This month I want to challenge you to do something that perhaps you've never done before. I promise you that at the end of the month, you will think differently about your husband and it will spill over into other relationships as well.

1. Begin keeping a "stroke file" on your husband. These need not be something that he sees or ever knows about. You can call this, "My Thankful File".


2. Everyday, take a 4x6 card and write one thing about which you are grateful and thankful for, in your husband. Because of your resentment…it may be difficult to get started at first. Trust me…it will get easier. Just make yourself do it. Store your card in the "stroke file" and think on that thankful thought throughout that entire day.

Example: I'm thankful for the way my husband…

My husband is so good at…

I love the way my husband…

One of my favorite things about my husband is…

I really appreciate…in my husband's character.

3. In your quiet times during the month, go back and re-read through some of the cards you have already written.


If you will make this a habit from then on, you will find the truth found in Proverbs 15:15 coming true for you!

"All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast."



This Thanksgiving, let's have a different kind of feast! Instead of focusing on the comfort foods that bring so much guilt later, place your focus on thankful thoughts primarily toward your husband. Get ready to enjoy the residual blessings as well!



Have a Happ-ier Thanksgiving!