How to Ruin Your Man

Men are not all the same. God gave each man a nature that is in part, much like Himself, but never complete. As women, it is important that we know what kind of man we are married to. Learning to appreciate the kind of man we married is 99% of the success of a marriage! Learning to adapt to our husband as he is and not as we want him to be will be the challenge of our lifetime. We can ruin a good man if we lack the understanding of what kind of man we married and fail to support him with his inadequacies. Always remember…your husband will probably be nothing like your father or brothers. Accept that.

God gives imperfect women to imperfect men so that together we can be heirs together of the grace of life and be something as a couple that will glorify the Heavenly Father!

I Peter 3:7 "Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered."

Husband # 1

If you are married to a commanding, forceful, bossy man, then it is very important that you learn how to make an appeal without challenging his authority or manhood. This type of man tends to have less tolerance and seems more self-sufficient. It is his nature to control. Learning to appreciate his dominant personality and commanding leadership will be the greatest gift you can give your husband. If you decide to fight against his decisive leadership, you'll both be miserable. This kind of man needs to have a wife who will admire his strengths and reverence him. Do your best not to shame or belittle him. This will destroy this kind of man faster than anything. Don't ignore his accomplishments…big or small. This kind of man who fails to receive his wife's respect and honor can turn in to an abusive man if he is not a Christian.

You can ruin your marriage to Mr. Command Man by just failing to honor, obey and reverence your husband's authority and rule. Don't try to change him. Train yourself to adapt to HIS needs and you'll find yourself much happier.

Husband # 2

If you are married to a man who likes to fly by the seat of his pants, I encourage you to hang on for the ride! These emotion driven men are dreamers in many ways. They can stir people to action or sell you a broken down tractor and make you think you're getting a prize antique! They are quick to call people on the carpet and if they are not wise, they can become fools who forcefully push their agendas on others. They are not afraid of confrontation. These kinds of men are often very gifted men and full of entrepreneur ideas.

With all these qualities, it is important that they have a wife who is spiritually minded. She needs to know how to speak a word of wisdom in due season. If you are not thinking Biblically you can't speak a good word in season. If you are a negative wife, you will ruin this kind of man. You will then have two poison tongued people living under the same roof. A wife married to this kind of man needs to be flexible! Learn to go with the flow. Adapt. Your husband will need your support and will appreciate it when it is freely given. He will have a lot of ideas and visions for your life, home and family. Be careful when he shares a new idea, that you don't destroy him by telling him his idea is crazy and he is an idiot. Just purpose in your heart to be loyal and strive to be flexible!

You can ruin your marriage by failing to follow, believe and participate enthusiastically with your dreamer husband.

Husband # 3

You might find yourself married to a less than exciting man. He may not have a flamboyant personality or the charisma of a salesman. He may avoid controversy as much as possible when you really wish that he would speak up. This man does not make snap decisions or may be slow to even make a decision. He is often tolerant or will even ignore hypocrisy in others. Life for the wife of Mr. Easy Going will be much easier than for other wives. This steady, cautious man may not be the most romantic and you may miss his true worth. Be very careful not to equate your husband's wise caution as weakness, lack of passion or unspiritual. A woman married to this kind of man is actually quite blessed but she may not see it that way. If you allow disappointment and unthankfulness to take root, you will find your husband trying all the harder to please you and it will weaken your respect for his masculinity. If the truth be known, this man is the best example of Christ likeness there is.

Matthew 20:28 "Even as the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many."

If you are married to this kind of man…honor him and watch him grow into a mighty man of God.

You can ruin your marriage by simply failing to appreciate, wait on and be thankful for your husband's pleasant, gracious qualities!

What kind of man are you married to? Be the helpmeet that he needs and you'll both be over the moon with happiness!