Life Without My Husband

Have you ever considered what life would be like without your husband in your life? Some disgruntled wife may say, “I would be happier and better without him! I only stay for the children.” Another, dissatisfied wife may lament, “I don’t “feel” love for him anymore anyway. Why would it matter if he were not here anymore?”

A woman with these kinds of attitudes would really concern me, because these are not to be the attitudes of a true child of God. Women who live in physically abusive situations need to remove themselves and their children from those environments, for their own safety. Even in those extreme situations, reconciliation should always be the goal. Why? Because nothing is too hard for God! He is the healer of broken hearts and minds! Our God can “fix” anything if we surrender ourselves into His capable hands!

I know a pastor’s wife who is younger than me and she lost her husband to cancer thispast year. While I was in Africa on our missions trip, Donna Kuzel shared some thought with me from a letter she had received from this widowed pastor’s wife. I want to share them with you. We can all learn from what others go through. Perhaps this will bring a new appreciation for your own husband and his position of influence in your life. If your relationship with your husband is stagnant, lifeless, lacking passion or interest, it might do each wife well, to sit down and reflect on the “what if’s”…..

A portion of the letter

This year has been filled with some new challenges for me (and my children) due to the death of my dear husband. I am excited about his “new experiences” with our Lord--- his “new perspective” about life. I miss him so much. It is hard to imagine a life without him here on earth.


On August 23rd at 5:15 AM, during the few minutes I felt I was fighting for his life, I experienced first hand, a person passing from life here on earth to life in eternity. We truly are one heartbeat or one breath from beginning our eternity. I was so blessed to have two hours alone with his body in our home before the funeral home workers came to get him. I tried to say to him, (through my tears) “See you soon!” which of course also
meant, “Goodbye Sweetheart!”


So many fond memories fill my mind each day of laughter, disappointment, hard work, happiness and frustrations, but overall, I feel like shouting because my husband always tried to speak the truth with love. His willingness to share Biblical principles brought great joy into my life and the lives of others. He completed his mission/purpose and God took him at the appointed time that He decided my husband’s purpose was fulfilled.


My future is in God’s hands. Whatever He wants me to do with my remaining years of life here on earth is His to guide. I cannot imagine living on earth without a close daily walk with my Heavenly Father. Certain days bring me to tears when I think of how blessed I was being his wife for 36 years. Other days I cry because I have such dear, loving friends. Other days I cry because I miss my husband’s Bible teaching and
preaching. Some days I cry because I can’t wait to get to Heaven! These are “good tears”, I call them. Helpful tears in the grieving process. The experiences of this year have helped me love and appreciate even more, sound spirit-led preaching from God’s Word. What a great day it will be when all we do is listen to Christ teach us and then we can really shout!


Without my Savior, Jesus Christ, I would be nothing, have no hope and wouldn’t care one hoot about living another day.


Please stay in touch with me…

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There are several lessons to be learned from this dear pastor wife.

1. While our husbands’ are still alive, living with us and a part of our life, take the time to “fight for his life”. See that he is happy! Care that he is happy! Nourish him… body, soul and spirit. His longevity is helped by each of these areas and you will both be happy if you will fight for his life, with you!

2. This dear wife felt blessed to be alone with his physical body after his spirit left to be with the Lord. Do we enjoy the time alone with our husband’s living body as we should? Are we annoyed if he “gets in our way” or seems to be “underfoot”? Time with our husband should never seem like an inconvenience. Do we cherish two hours alone with our husband’s live body?

3. God has an “appointed” time for all of us to die. The problem is, we just don’t know when that time is! We all have a mission and a purpose to accomplish while we live.

If you have a husband, your mission has been set before you. Take care of that man! Reverence your husband as your head and be the best helpmeet you can. You do not know when your time….or his…will be up!